Aaah Summertime!

Summertime can mean good things for your relationship. As you spend uncontested time with each other you can reconnect. You can reconnect physically, spiritually, and emotionally. These are all vital aspects of any relationship.

If you take road trips, time spent together driving to various destinations can be used to build bridges or repair past problems. This is a time when you can have a private environment in which you can share hopes, dreams, troubles and laughs. Time traveling together never has to be time wasted. Sharing these things builds trust and intimacy. As we all know trust and intimacy are the keystones of any lasting successful relationship.

We need to recharge our emotional batteries every so often and shared holidays can do that for you. There are other ways of doing this but summer vacations seem to be tailor made for this purpose. But this recharging does not happen automatically, we need to work at it. We have to have the desire and commitment to open our mouths and take the first step. And if our partner is taking that first step we need to be supportive and enter into the sharing whole-heartedly.

The first step to recharging is the desire to do so, then a little planning may be required to make it work. This type of connection requires private time; time alone, just the two of you. If you have children, you will have to plan for that time. Get a sitter or send the children to Grandma’s. Camping alone is a very good way to have that time together, if you like that sort of thing. However you decide to do that doesn’t matter as long as you can make it as stress free as possible.

The next step is to spend the time together, not separately together. Talk together, laugh together, giggle, snuggle and make love. Make love quietly, loudly, hilariously and passionately. Give yourself to your lover, share yourselves, be one together. Take walks, hold hands, do the things that you did that made you fall in love.

Whatever works for you, do those things that make you feel good and in love. The activities you choose need allow you to connect, so make sure it is something that you both want. Not to say that one can not give the other t a gift of love, a gift of their time and attention. When that happens we should accept that gift graciously and with love.

Dallas Munkholm
Professional Counselor & Life Coach

Co-author of Marriage Prep: Beginnings a downloadable marriage preparation course.

Co-author of Intimate Sex: Manual for Lovemaking, a sex manual for couples

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