What Have You Done For Fun Lately?

Whether the relationship is with your children, your partner or your friends, fun should be a part of it. If smiling and laughter is not a regular part of your day, then maybe it is time to lighten up. A smile brightens your face and brightens you mood. Finding reasons to smile helps make life more worthwhile.

A sense of humor is a great addition to any relationship. Just remember not to use humor at the expense of others. It is only funny if everyone can laugh about it. Laughing at others can be hurtful.

Are your children learning from you that it is okay to enjoy life? Are they learning to see the humor in difficult situations and to not take themselves too seriously? Are they learning that there is a time to work and a time to play? Make some time to have fun with your children and ensure that it is also fun for them.

If your relationship seems a little stale, you might start by asking yourself, “What have we done for fun lately?” If you realize that this element has been lacking, then it may be time for brainstorming and action. Each of you makes a list of things that you like to do for fun. Push yourselves to come up with at least ten ideas. Then compare your lists. If there are some similarities, great, these are things that you both find fun. Now schedule and do at least one fun thing together each week.

If you don’t have similarities then look at this as an opportunity to try out some things that are fun for your partner and have them try out some things that are fun for you. You don’t have to do everything on the lists and you can add to the lists at any time. Just DO IT. Give yourself permission to have fun and enjoy life.

Susan Derry, B.Ed., M.S.Psy., R.P.C.
Professional Counselor & Life Coach

Co-author of Marriage Prep: Beginnings a downloadable marriage preparation course

Co-author of Intimate Sex: Manual for Lovemaking, a sex manual for couples

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