A wise person once said, 'Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass...It's about learning to dance in the rain.'
When we can finally appreciate, especially the tough times, and learn to make the best of whatever life hands us, to see opportunities, rather than obstacles, our lives will cease to be a waiting game. Too many people are constantly postponing happiness—when I get a better job I'll be happy, when my partner changes I'll be happy, when I have a newer house, car, clothes I'll be happy. We can waste our whole lives waiting for the right conditions to make us happy, constantly looking for the next thing that we think will bring us happiness. Or we can learn to dance in the rain.
How can we learn to dance in the rain? First of all, we have to give up the notion that rain is bad. If all we ever had was sunshine, the world with wither and die. Rain is amazing; is essential for life and growth. The tough times in our lives are when we have the most opportunity for growth.
The challenge is to accept what is, not with resignation that things will never improve; but with recognition that we simply are where we are and this is the start of something better. We can start to look for solutions, rather than whining about problems; we can start here and move forward.
Life is bit like a roller coaster, in childhood we seem to inch along impatient for our life to start, then we are launched into the ups and downs, twists and turns, and all too soon it is over. As much as we might like to stop the train at the peaks so we could hang on to those moments when everything seems just right, we cannot and the sooner we recognize that it is the ride down that helps us make the next peak, the more we can embrace the challenges and enjoy, rather than dread, the ride.
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