A Look In The Mirror

The foundation of all good relationships if the relationship that you have with yourself. It is time to take stock of your relationship with you. You can begin by noticing your daily habits and whether they are nourishing you or draining you. How do you feel about you? How well do you take care of yourself?

Rate your self-care:

Physically – Do I exercise at least three times a week? Do I eat healthy food and drink enough water? Do I get enough sleep? Is my space organized and clutter free?

Emotionally – Do I have healthy ways to reduce my stress level? Am I living in and enjoying the present? Do I speak positively to myself? Have I worked through my personal and family issues in therapy if necessary?

Intellectually – Am I continuing to learn and grow? Do I find ways to challenge and stretch myself intellectually?

Spiritually – Am I aligned with positive so that I will attract positive into my life? Do I worship as I choose? Do I have something wonderful to look forward to each day? Do I practice gratitude?

Socially – Do I live in a nurturing home environment? Do I have a support network I can depend on?

Appearance – Do I take care of and respect my body? Do I wear clothes that flatter me? Do I smile often?

Integrity – Do I say no when I mean no and yes when I mean yes? Am I firm and stick to my personal standards? Do I only make promises that I am willing to keep?

Time Management – Do I have a relaxing daily routines? Do I find time to do what I most want to do, not just what I should or have to do?

Rating your self care is not intended to make you feel bad. It is intended to make you aware of areas where you may need to improve. Make and keep a promise to yourself to be more diligent in taking care of yourself. Remember that self care is not selfishness. Although sacrifice is an important part of loving relationships, we cannot have great relationships if we sacrifice who we are in the process. Nourish yourself with positive thoughts; practice acceptance and gratitude within yourself. When you have a great relationship with yourself, your relationships with others will improve.

Susan Derry, B.Ed., M.S.Psy., R.P.C., C.P.C.
Professional Counselor & Life Coach

Co-author of Marriage Prep: Beginnings a downloadable marriage preparation course

Co-author of Intimate Sex: Manual for Lovemaking, a sex manual for couples

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